I have a lot of friends today with an extra charm or two on their bracelets. One of my closest friends who recently experienced this deep sadness talked to me a little about it. She said she wished it wasn't so taboo. Why did she have to hide her joy away when she learned she was pregnant and then hurry back to work the next day after she had lost this baby? We said F that! We were happy, those ten weeks of happiness were real and now we're sad and that is real too!
As a child, around the same time that my mom lost Mary, another friend's mom went into labor and delivered a stillborn baby. She had such a horribly sad experience at the hospital and also went home empty handed. She turned her sadness into the Cameron Kravitt Foundation. This foundation has surely helped many of my friends today experience a gentler time of grieving at the hospital. The mission is to support parents who lose a baby during pregnancy, at birth or during the first year of life. This foundation has changed the way hospitals treat families after loss and has trained doctors in how to deliver the worst news they will ever have to deliver. Thanks Mrs. Kravitt for making sure my friends don't have to endure loss in the same way that our mothers did.
A book was recently given to me by our social worker. It was entitled We Were Going to Have a Baby, But We Had an Angel Instead. At the end of the book the child in the story says, "I think a baby would have been more fun." I agree!
Mary is our angel baby. We talked about her often and still do. Kendall knows about her. She is the fifth sibling in the Cobb family. We love you angel Mary.
I love you little guy! Let your faith be bigger than your fears.